That is probably the million dollar question. Everyone wants to know the answer to that one. To me the answer to that loaded question is very plain and simple. Have respect, compassion and communicate with the other person you are in a relationship with. Well if it were that easy, I would not need to be writing this little blurb. I have researched this topic and taking from my own past experiences I am going to tackle this subject.
First of all, I've always been fascinated by love, like what makes you attracted to a certain person, how do you know when that person is the "one"? I have come to the conclusion that there is no rhyme or reason to trying to figure out love. Just accept it and enjoy the ride. I believe you must start out with mutual respect for each other. This means you should not have contempt or abuse for the other person in any way. You don't have to always agree with them but you should always have their back.
When having a disagreement, you should always be arguing about the situation at hand and not bringing up past incidents. Don't bring up the time he came home 3 hours late that Tuesday 2 years ago. If, let's say you are having an argument about a money issue. Make sure the argument is about THAT money issue and that issue only. In other words, make sure you're not fighting and are arguing about said issue.
If children are involved in your relationship, it is important that you agree on how you are going to raise your children. Fundamentally there are 3 basic rules of parenting.
1) These are the rules. No ifs, ands or buts.
2) These are the rules. You (children) can put in your two cents but parents have final say.
3) The rules are lax or almost non existent.
Parents need to pick a style of parenting and stick with it. If they were raised in totally different styles, then it's important to compromise and meet in the middle on how they are going to raise the children.
Next, it helps if a couple have common interests and goals. It is okay to have varied interest but always nice to have interests somewhat close in nature. If a couple have a little different scope in interests it allows them to explore new things. It's also nice when a couple have similar goals in life. Too many times couples don't have the same goals and end up growing apart from each other because they are not trying to reach the same end result.
Sex is a very important aspect in a marriage. Don't ever make it feel like a chore or use it as punishment. Sex should be something that you both enjoy doing together. Always try to make time and have the energy for a healthy sex life.
In conclusion just have fun with each other. Beauty fades. Sexiness withers. But someone who can make you laugh and always put a smile on your face? Well, that's just priceless! Enjoy each other's company and make plans for the long haul and you will have a very happy, long life!
First of all, I've always been fascinated by love, like what makes you attracted to a certain person, how do you know when that person is the "one"? I have come to the conclusion that there is no rhyme or reason to trying to figure out love. Just accept it and enjoy the ride. I believe you must start out with mutual respect for each other. This means you should not have contempt or abuse for the other person in any way. You don't have to always agree with them but you should always have their back.
When having a disagreement, you should always be arguing about the situation at hand and not bringing up past incidents. Don't bring up the time he came home 3 hours late that Tuesday 2 years ago. If, let's say you are having an argument about a money issue. Make sure the argument is about THAT money issue and that issue only. In other words, make sure you're not fighting and are arguing about said issue.
If children are involved in your relationship, it is important that you agree on how you are going to raise your children. Fundamentally there are 3 basic rules of parenting.
1) These are the rules. No ifs, ands or buts.
2) These are the rules. You (children) can put in your two cents but parents have final say.
3) The rules are lax or almost non existent.
Parents need to pick a style of parenting and stick with it. If they were raised in totally different styles, then it's important to compromise and meet in the middle on how they are going to raise the children.
Next, it helps if a couple have common interests and goals. It is okay to have varied interest but always nice to have interests somewhat close in nature. If a couple have a little different scope in interests it allows them to explore new things. It's also nice when a couple have similar goals in life. Too many times couples don't have the same goals and end up growing apart from each other because they are not trying to reach the same end result.
Sex is a very important aspect in a marriage. Don't ever make it feel like a chore or use it as punishment. Sex should be something that you both enjoy doing together. Always try to make time and have the energy for a healthy sex life.
In conclusion just have fun with each other. Beauty fades. Sexiness withers. But someone who can make you laugh and always put a smile on your face? Well, that's just priceless! Enjoy each other's company and make plans for the long haul and you will have a very happy, long life!
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