If you're married or in a civil union, you have had to deal with a mother in-law. Now granted most mother in-laws are pretty nice and easy to get along with. Thank your lucky stars if you have one like that. A cool mother in-law can sometimes be a surrogate mother if you have lost your biological mother or she just isn't in your life. If you are close to your own mother a nice mother in-law can be like a second mom. I mean you can never have enough of mom's home cooking right?
Now for those of you that have a hard to please monster in-law, oops I meant mother in-law, there are ways of dealing with her just short of moving to Siberia. First of all it would probably be a good idea for you to "kill" her with kindness. Compliment her on her hair, her fashion sense or the mole on her chin. Any positive reinforcement will do. A few simple words strategically placed here and there will usually have a woman eating out of your hand instead of just eating your hand.
A lot of mothers seem to always think that their little Johnny or Debbie could have done better. What they don't realize is that it's their child's life and not theirs. One can not help who they fall in love with, right? So therefore these mothers are constantly putting you down and telling you that you're not good enough. You need to find a way to get on her good side. You could send her some flowers. Find out from Johnny or Debbie what her favorite bloom is and send her a dozen. Important to make sure she is not allergic. That would not score any brownie points. Find out what her favorite color is and perhaps purchase her a blouse in that shade.
If you can afford it, send her on an exotic trip around the world. Not only will you be achieving gold status in her eyes but, you will be getting rid of her for a month or so. The only downside to this, is when she returns you will have to sit through countless hours of blurry, unfocused photographs she took of her journey.
Just be yourself and show her you are not the bum or witch she thinks you are. You don't want to go through life pretending to be something you're not every time you're around this woman. Show her how much you love and care about her offspring and do it often. Actions always speak louder than words! With a few well thought out gestures and a couple of nice gifts would hurt, she will be singing your praises in no time!
Now for those of you that have a hard to please monster in-law, oops I meant mother in-law, there are ways of dealing with her just short of moving to Siberia. First of all it would probably be a good idea for you to "kill" her with kindness. Compliment her on her hair, her fashion sense or the mole on her chin. Any positive reinforcement will do. A few simple words strategically placed here and there will usually have a woman eating out of your hand instead of just eating your hand.
A lot of mothers seem to always think that their little Johnny or Debbie could have done better. What they don't realize is that it's their child's life and not theirs. One can not help who they fall in love with, right? So therefore these mothers are constantly putting you down and telling you that you're not good enough. You need to find a way to get on her good side. You could send her some flowers. Find out from Johnny or Debbie what her favorite bloom is and send her a dozen. Important to make sure she is not allergic. That would not score any brownie points. Find out what her favorite color is and perhaps purchase her a blouse in that shade.
If you can afford it, send her on an exotic trip around the world. Not only will you be achieving gold status in her eyes but, you will be getting rid of her for a month or so. The only downside to this, is when she returns you will have to sit through countless hours of blurry, unfocused photographs she took of her journey.
Just be yourself and show her you are not the bum or witch she thinks you are. You don't want to go through life pretending to be something you're not every time you're around this woman. Show her how much you love and care about her offspring and do it often. Actions always speak louder than words! With a few well thought out gestures and a couple of nice gifts would hurt, she will be singing your praises in no time!
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